Reading some of your posts has been a humbling experience for me so to dive in and write something to you feels a little scandalous, but I am pretty bold and will do it anyway. First, you are amazing and a real inspiration. Second, I literally recall in the first moments I learned that yes my H was lying to me and had a PA with another woman and wanted a divorce that I had two choices. I could accept it and the outcome would be a certainty, or I could reject it and wait to figure out another day, when I was calmer, saner, more rational, whether I actually wanted to be married to this person. That day has not yet come. But, what I do know, is that if he does come back and I let him, and we try to make something work, then we will have to reach the point where you are right now. By definition, I think you are in a wonderful place, in a necessary place, and in a place where you can truly explore your own wants, needs, and desires in a way that is much safer for you than what you have been living through. Given the sagacious nature of your advice to everyone else here, it will be the right decision for you and your family in this moment. Nothing but the sincerest and most humble gratitude for the lessons you have already taught me.
