I stand firm that you owe NO ONE any explanations for what you think, feel, or write. I know you know this, but it is your kind heart that keeps you explaining and re-explaining. You've laid it all out here. Of course, we're all entitled to our opinions, and we all know that what works in one sitch may not be the best answer in another.
It's only natural that sometimes we just want to hear what we want to hear!
I don't ever want to be humored for my opinion. Talk, discuss, work it out. We may never totally agree, but we can come to a place where we understand and respect the other's opinions. Sure, you can sometimes talk to someone, get a different opinion, and choose to change your tune and take the advice. There's nothing wrong with that, if you're doing it because it really is what is best, and you are able to admit that perhaps you were wrong.
Your sitch has been talked about, gone through, and then rehashed again. You've been more than willing to consider many things from many people. Good for you. Now you can move forward and know that you looked at things from every angle.
I'm not saying I disagree with you here. You're ready for more, and you need more. Enough said. Either you're going to get an indication that it's possible, or you're going to move on. In a perfect world you would not be in this situation. But, you are, and only you know what you can tolerate.
You've been more tolerant than anyone I know. By tolerant I mean committed to the process. NOT a derranged seal that claps over every little morsal of attention given you by your H.
