Sorry to butt in and I don't know your story (but hope to soon), but I'm in this polyanna stage where I am trying to reframe things for my own sanity. Wondering if maybe she asked you about the clothes and such because she was feeling the need to work up to it or simply wanted some positive connection with you. I used to have an employee who would come up to me all the time and ask me things I know she knew the answer to. I think she was perhaps a little fearful of me or didn't know how to interact and was trying to have some kind of connection. I could be totally off-base and probably am, but letting go of negative thoughts can be a gift to ourselves. Best wishes to you.
