Friends: Anchor, Bruce and Chum's BB Version

[TripleJ]

Wow Betsey! What a letter! Took me a while to get through all the metaphors, but hey, I made it.

I am COMPLETE agreement that you should give him this letter. I for one am a letter reader, and it sounds as if Mr. W is a letter reader too. So, feel confident that if the letter was delivered, he will read it. Understanding the letter, well......that's a different story.

I am also in agreement of sending the letter as is. Like your friend suggested, it is time for Mr. W to s**t or get off the pot.

I KNOW you have pondered this, wrestled with it and probably stressed a bit to come to the decision to do this. I have no doubt that this has been well thought out by you, thinking about this for a few weeks now. I am NOT going to ask you for additonal time to think about this.

And I know there are some rumblings out there about the letter being too angry or sarcastic. I say, so what! And here's MHO on why.

Betsey, you have been at this for a long time. Much longer than most of the people who are posting to you, including me. You have ridden more roller coasters. You have seen many ups and downs. You have done the steps religiously without asking for anything in return and receiving nothing.

You have done the Bob Barker gig for a while. You have improved yourself so much, and acted "as if" for so long, that maybe it has become "more of the same" now. Mr. W is expecting you to do nothing. Mr. W is expecting you to be happy go lucky when he sees you. Mr. W is comfortable knowing that you will be there while he drags his feet at a question that you pondered to him over a month ago. My worst fear is that you do nothing and this path continues for years and years, because from your description of Mr. W throughout his whole life, he will not be the one to choose which path anytime soon.

So, in essence, a fire needs to be lit under his behind. And who is going to do it?

Yes, limbo land stinks. No one likes to be there, and you have been the resident manager there for quite some (so much fo staying away from metaphors). But I truly believe, from what you have told us here on the BB, and in off the board chats, Mr. W will not lift a finger. He is content on the status quo and runs and hides when he is faced with a decision that he knows will affect him greatly. He is not one for confrontation.

Now, this needs to be said. I stated clearly that this is MHO. But it is MHO in regards to your sitch and your sitch only. Never would I imagine giving this sort of opinion to someone who has been DBing for only a few weeks or months and wanted to do this.

We all have different sitchs and we need to evaluate them individually, for ourselves. I am offering you what I think and you can take it or leave it, but what I am saying is strictly for you and not anyone else.

You know where you are at. You know that you are at a crossroads. And you definitely know that whatver road you choose, YOU WILL BE ALL RIGHT! You know when it is time, and your decisions I may disagree with, or I may not, but I will back you 100%. I trust you will make the right decision for Betsey and the kids.

You are my FRIEND! Lots of love back to you!

Hugs,

Triple J