WH came back. Piecing. Almost at 2 year mark.

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I agree with Roist and thanks for posting Blu, I always look out for your name and read what you write. It is true that when we are scared and desperate, we'll do pretty much anything to try and save our marital relationship. I recall thinking in the early days - how on earth did this happen and how do I fix it??!

But it can be a case of be careful what you wish for. Because from all that people post, piecing is incredibly difficult and there is a loss either way. You lose what you had before and are integrating the events that happened and the behaviour of your spouse into your new relationship with them.

In many ways, it can be easier (I'm not saying better) to move on and either be happily single, or in time build a new relationship without the need to forgive and overcome these events with your current partner. However, they do need to be forgiven and overcome either way - you heal together or you heal separately.

I do still think it is relatively early days in your reconciliation and there will inevitably be difficult feelings washing around for both of you. Many things to work through. But, your H truly does sound regretful and keen to reconcile, so that very important foundation is in place. Plus you are wisely investing in yourself and your wider life.

All will unfold as it should Blu, and there will be many joys to appreciate along the way and challenges to learn from too...

Xx