First time post feeling lost and confused

[KevinIn]

Thanks kevinin you are a great inspiration.

Oh heck no i'm not. If that were the case, i'd be happily married right now. But, i've definitely made a solid effort to detach and move forward with my own life without my wife.

Tomorrow we are going to tell our daughter something about the way things will be going forward i.e. Mummy and daddy need some time apart to fingurentbkngs out as neither of us are happy at the moment. Hopefully that should be enough until we know more of what is going to happen.

Good luck. Let me know how it goes. Are you going to use some of the info from Michelle's article?

Please plan on posting how it goes. I'll need your lessons learned.

I logged on to my Mac and she was still signed in I know I shouldn't have snooped but I did and she has searched for the same guy everyday for the past 2 weeks. And it's not just once a day. It numerous.

Stop snooping. Ya gotta stop. For you. Don't do it anymore. Log her out if you need to.

this guy is an oik.

I had to google that one - not an American term.

OIK: noun, BRITISH, an uncouth or obnoxious person.

She said she wanted to sleep in the main bed with me tonight so I might allow her. Especially as her world is going to come crashing down tomorrow.

I've been letting my 6 year old sleep in my bed whenever i'm home, for at least one night. She's my rock. It kills me to know how bad its going to break her heart when we tell her.

Even did a bit of db referring back to our argument on Monday and validating saying that I am sorry that she feels that way and I appreciate that she was being open and honest.

Nice work. Keep it up.

I hope that knowing that I will see the children every Monday and Tuesday and every other weekend

This is my exact schedule. The 5 day stretch without my kids is horrible. But, it could be less so i'm thankful.

Why am I beating myself up so much when I know that out there, there must be someone who I can be with who wouldn't treat me the way she has.

Because this is all painful and there isn't an easy path forward?