All the lying, manipulation, and duplicity is just astounding. I don't get it. Do these cheaters think the LBSs are stupid?
YEP.
Regarding whether you should to the work on D... here's my take. H decided in Nov that he needed to move out and find someone to make him happy. He moved out Jan 1. He makes twice what I make and we have two kids and a huge mortgage payment. He made no moves to hire an attorney or put anything legal in place...so I did. Not because I want to S or D, but to protect my kids and my financial interests. I work in a field where a bankruptcy filing could literally ruin my career. I can't afford to have him screw anything up for me financially while he's in the tunnel. So I did the work, met with him to go over particulars, met with my attorney repeatedly to get it right, etc. etc.
So you've got to look at your own situation and decide where your best interests lie. If protecting you and your son's interests means you do the work, then look at it as something you're doing for yourselves, not for H.
Hang in there. I'm a dog person too and they provide so much comfort when we're down. I still feel the loss of two of my best buds that I lost almost 5 years ago. Hugs to you, FightOn.
Me : 42 Him : 43 M : 18, T : 19 D13, D11 4/16 1st BD (ILYB) 11/16 H wants s, moves out of br 1/17 H rents house & moves out 2/17 OW (he denies PA but EA last winter) 5/17 I filed for D 7/17 D Final
