Update: she went over there again last night, this time after his kids were in bed and sleeping. Came back home at 6:30am. I hit my breaking point and its OVER. Court on April 5th and I am taking her to the cleaners. Enough said!!!
Well, the wait as long as I can plan went off the rails quickly.
That said, I dont fault you for filing. I think its disrespectful to your family to be cake eating to this degree.
I would caution you that just because you are divorced legally doesnt mean anything as far as detachment is concerned. So what will you do to recover from this in a healthy way?