Dealing with Devastation

[WshIKnw]

I've noticed something about you since the first few posts of yours. You seem to be calmer, stronger, and wiser. You sounded a little wimpy in the early posts, but I don't get that from you now. That is inspirational to me, because I have a real issue with wimpiness.

When I see my wife, I get the sense that there is still a lot of love there as well. Last time I saw her, she ran away really fast, like it hurt her to be around me, or something. I've also noticed looks in her eyes like there are feelings. She would study my face a lot. She would stare at me while I wasn't looking directly at her, but then quickly look away as soon as I looked at her eyes.

I feel a sense of hope for you from reading this latest post. If she will go to counseling, that is really good. My wife went to one marriage counseling session with me, after bomb drop, said she was glad she went, and enjoyed it, but still refused to go to any more. Hopefully your wife will continue to go with you.

My wife has another man. So, it's very hard for us to reconcile as long as he is in her head.