Flying Blind

[Dawgs]

Thank you, 25, for giving me such great advice and knocking some sense into me!

You are correct, there is some anger with the whole thing that still resonates within. Is it justified? Yes, yes it is. Would I act on it? No. Not unless forced to, that is.

I'm not concerned about the OM. I had specific language put into the decree that states if anyone with a felony or anything on record showing child endangerment is not to be allowed - period. And guess who has all that? The OM. The ex did not like that one bit, but she signed without a fight. In fact, she didn't fight any of it.

Now, my nuke "options." Would I use them? I don't like or want to think about going that route. Not at all. Still, after all she has said and done, I still have a soft spot for her. I don't want to destroy her. I could have ended her career and really have done a lot of damage to her had I wanted. I did go to JAG and had a nice conversation with them...but, at the end of the day, I didn't do it. And that was only for the children. If we didn't have kids, then I'd have done it. All I had to do was hit send.

And that option still exists if I want it...and I also realize that if I were to use it, then the resulting fallout would affect the kids - maybe even greatly, and I can't have that.

Now, as there is always a flip side, the grumblings from her camp are becoming increasingly louder to the point of almost deafening. I'm doing my best not to open the can of worms and reply...for the most part I just ignore, block, delete. Except one time where the ex-MIL posted some slanderous stuff on something I tagged a mutual friend on. In that case, I screenshotted it and forwarded it to my lawyer as part of their harassment stuff. Then I deleted and blocked. And I brought it to the ex's attention what had happened and what I did with it. That's all.

Remember the mole in their camp? Well, that mole has been informing me of something the ex and her sister have up their sleeve concerning the kids, and it's quite disturbing. There have been more than one incident of parental alienation happening. And that's not all.

So, what do I do when their noise/actions become to great? What do I do concerning the parental alienation and also the "alienation" coming from sister and all? Granted, she only sees them twice a month for two nights total, but still. Its started and needs to be stopped.

My lawyer says I could have gotten full custody had I wanted it - it would have been messy and may have even resulted in the ex completely breaking down. The option is there. But I didn't do it because of the kids. They love their mom, no matter how much of a piece of shite she is. Which leads me to another fear - a very rational fear that she may repeat her mother's actions when they were young. That scares me more than anything.

So, my "nukes" are this: A small reveal of what she has done - no one, save one - the mole, knows of any of the stuff she has done. They all are convinced that I cheated, wronged her, abused her, etc...she lied to them THAT much. Who knows. Would I be forced to? I could if I had to.

Another thing - the OM's ex wife saw what the ex-MIL had posted (we are friends on said social media) and flat out told me that all I need to do is say the word and she'd put the show on for me. I told her she has the green light to respond to the next one.

So, that's it. Anger? Yes. Would I do something stupid? No.