When Do MLC-LBS Officially Give Up?

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FGump,

My brother is arms. Two pages and some great discussion for the ages here. I see you you got HJk'ed a little bit, but the value of the read was worth it.

When do people left behind by MLC spouses give up?

I am trusting we have known each other deeply and long enough for you to already know whom I will quote from my first day here:

I think it is too late when they put you in a box and pile dirt on you.
Until then you have a chance.

That said, I have never taken this to mean we hold on to the point of our own detriment. But still, its like this three years later for LouR above:

...if I am honest I still hold out a teeny bit of hope that one day he may wake up from this time in his life and fight to get me back; fantasy... maybe, but no matter how much I get angry, feel hurt, sadness and the loss of him, I know that somewhere deep down I would be open to him again if the situation should arise.

My story is not updated yet and I have been gone for almost two months. In short, my M is but a notary public signature and some court time away. I said what I had to, I have let her be, I have achieved comfort in being with just me, and while I am much, much too busy for my desire, I am in a great place with self - which is the goal after all.

That said, I am still quite in love with her, for me, that does not feel like it goes away - but it does move on. It can move on without her...and I am cool with that. I am even cool with the idea that one day it can feel like it goes away, even if it hasn't yet; but I am done wishing it would. There are still difficult days, but I am accepting things that I would not have just months ago, which is great. The universe is abundant and I have already seen where I am open to others. However, the best gift of my effort, I am open to self, I am right with me. Still got work to do, but have come this far.

This does not have to mean a door locks shut and it does not have to mean a door remains wide open. It does not even have to mean a f'king proverbial door exists. Its my god damn door. Its your door as well.

I know, I know... you DB for yourself, and you DB forever for life but ... there's got to be a point at which you abandon all hope, and just stop caring.

Contradiction sir! If you DB for yourself, why must there be a point where you abandon all hope and stop caring? You are in the MLC board now. Thus, today is the day to watch her self become silhouette, her self to become shadow, her self no longer shade; today is the day for your self to become synergy with your self. I noticed Mach1 commented on you and I do hope he (and others) provides you with the brutal, yet loving kindness of honesty, that I received once I arrived here. Answer such posts. Stick with the MLC board and the time for rant is done. Shovel in hand, the grave of the old FG before you, dig down and hold some soil from the man you are made of in your hands.

I wish you sleep, among all else my friend.