Like many have written, letting go of hope is a personal choice and I feel it happens slowly, you move along with your own life and grow in yourself, with that comes peace inside and how you feel about your MLC'er.
Despite a Touch n Go from my h late last year that really shattered my heart all over again, if I am honest I still hold out a teeny bit of hope that one day he may wake up from this time in his life and fight to get me back; fantasy... maybe, but no matter how much I get angry, feel hurt, sadness and the loss of him, I know that somewhere deep down I would be open to him again if the situation should arise.
I am not ready to close the door on my h completely, but I have become open to the possibility of a new relationship and have also become ok with a life alone if that should be the case. I try to live in the present and see what tomorrow brings, open to change and new experiences.
I think you dont realize you have shut the door until its already shut. If you ask yourself the question "should I shut the door" then you are not ready to do so.
