Wow 25yearsmlc, what great insight. I'm new here, posted on the Newcomer. Totally confused about what is going on with my guy (NPD, MLC, both, just PA, something??) but been in it a long time. Feeling like I want it to be over but don't see my way to the end. Mine is very passive-aggressive and rages and disappears at the slightest things. I have zero ability to talk to him. I just avoid dealing with him altogether and only respond when he contacts me and even then only when he is nice. He is sending mixed messages through FB and unanswered texts to the kids. My status quo isn't terrible but the feeling that I have no control over my own life is intolerable. I think if he knows I am ready to end it, he will stall me to the end of time and I will be in a very expensive divorce (I'm a lawyer, he's a doctor) that will get very ugly (he's done bad, bad things that would be humiliating for him). I've been sadder the last two days than I have in a long time because I think I'm accepting that I am done, but feeling trapped. I want to be done but just let it dribble to a conclusion, but my brain doesn't let me. Advice?
