Here's my theory. There are two kinds of people. People who get their happiness from giving, and people who get their happiness from getting. Your the former; and your wife is the latter.
Simplistic, but I wonder if it's true. It seems to me that in long-term marriages, only the givers will survive and be content,.
I don't disagree with the generalization about givers and takers. Fact is that some of us are the "Relationship nurturers" or gardeners tending to the garden, and the partner is more about the external work or achievement, etc. OR oblivious
Still, I also think we evolve and change in time (or we can). So I hesitate to characterize all of us in 1 of two groups.
(Besides, I don't want to be stuck in the Giver's side if it means never "Getting"!)
And yes, I also think those of us who give love freely and feel it deeply, are actually happier in the end, than those who are waiting to feel it.
Even though people have different love languages (and it's vital that we learn our partner's LL)
it's tragic to see people turn away from the love their spouses are giving them
b/c it's not arriving in the correct lane...such a shame.
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
