Thank you 25yearsmlc. I'll be purchasing the DR tomorrow. I have been trying very hard to take what he says are our "problems" and try to make them right. I have not nagged him once since the BD. no bad tone of voice, no fighting, and trying especially hard to not act needy and beg. (I feel I have done a decent job). despite a few rejections from him, we actually have been more intimate in the last week than we have in months. although the intimacy is a bit "cold" if that makes sense. He complains I never just sit with him and watch stupid movies and tv (I'm just not a tv person, I'd rather be out doing things outside or cooking, creating art, etc)but for the last 5 days I have watched more movies and TV than I have in ages as well. His behavior is still very weird to me but I guess that comes with the territory of a spouse that has checked out.
Would you recommend that I still try and distance myself, even though he is starting to become a little more receptive? It's very hit and miss, but it's there. last week he told me he didn't feel much for me and not to get offended if he wasn't affectionate...the last two days he's been kissing and hugging, all his effort.
