I have done a ton of reading and still am a total novice on the subject, but I know enough to know that MLC, or whatever it is that she is going thru, is devastating to a family unit. As a LBS, my family (parents & siblings & my children) has gotten closer...so that is a good thing.
As the MLC'er, my W's family (her parents and siblings) has somewhat splintered. As far as I can see she has continued a fairly good relationship with our kids. And, as far as I can tell she has continued to be friends with most of our family friends...not any of them had stood up to her to say she was nuts. Well, one said that she would talk about it, but nobody confronted her. She has also created an entire new group of friends that do not know me or what our M was like for the last 20+ years. I hear that is typical MLC.
Hi there SBJ...I've been reading along with you but have not been an active poster. You've given me a lot of comfort on my thread so I wanted to stop in and try to provide the same. I'm rubbish at wisdom, but I can at least be there in solidarity. What you're describing in your family and your W's family... I'm experiencing the same. My family has circled the wagons and H has isolated himself from his immediate family as much as he can. Things are very fractured in his family as a result and my family is working hard to heal the girls and I. I guess that's just the way with MLC; something we can look at and be grateful for in this storm.
I can't say I share your affinity for whiskey, but a dirty martini with some quality vodka has been known to help me out in these troubled times. That and I discovered ZzzQuil, which works extremely well in the sleep department. I would advise against employing both of those agents at the same time, naturally.
Keep the faith - you continually inspire me to do the same.
Me : 42 Him : 43 M : 18, T : 19 D13, D11 4/16 1st BD (ILYB) 11/16 H wants s, moves out of br 1/17 H rents house & moves out 2/17 OW (he denies PA but EA last winter) 5/17 I filed for D 7/17 D Final
