Friends: Anchor, Bruce and Chum's BB Version

[Meredith]

Yeah, BUT…but…but…but…Betsey…I like sarcasm! I like it a lot! Okay, how about this plan. I will not be sarcastic to my H in an angry situation because I can see how that would definitely be classified as disrespect (yet, I’m telling you, it makes these wall-talking interactions a little more spicey). Instead of tossing out my creatively construed sarcastic comments toward my H, I’ll send it to you and Pam instead. Then, my talent wasn’t wasted and my H doesn’t have to hear it. Plus we can have a really good roflol over it. Deal?

Even though this topic seems to be as dead as the battery in my cell phone right now (and yes, that is a problem) I’ll add my two cents on the PA/EA issue that Seattle brought to light. My thoughts are directly in line with Betsey’s. Yes, these affairs happened…in the past. They happened when we weren’t considering our partners one iota. They happened when our partners weren’t considering us one iota. They happened and they are done.

HOWEVER…if we go through this work and we truly change and we invest our time, our love and our souls into trusting these people again and they still decide to stray – hand me a pen, please, so that I can sign my name on the dotted line of the divorce decree. That is what all of my deal breakers formulate around. Hell, every one of those items on my deal breakers list happened. To be totally honest, one of them still is (the lateness). And if they continue to happen when I have given consideration to every angle and every alternative, well, they are something I cannot and will not live with.

Something occurred to me as I was reading through everyone’s lists. Almost everyone had mentioned a communication breakdown. Yet, almost everyone had something listed to consider about H’s behavior. For H’s who cannot communicate, they seemed to communicate their need for solitude pretty well. Surely, the communication needs work…but you know, I don’t think that they are not communicating. I think they are just not communicating the things that we want them to.

Another thought I had is that our lists are similar…and I wonder if that is because we are all woman discussing our husbands. Know what that means? All you men out there…Seattle, Bill, Triple J…you know who you are. Let’s see some lists! We’ll compare them to see if maybe there is something that us women are not communicating very clearly – maybe in a way that our husbands have not considered??

Pam, you needn’t worry about my negative humor, dahling. It is who I am and I will be negatively funny from now until forever!