Wife with Neighbor Across the Street

[Dawgs]

so if at the end of the day I still want to save things as crazy as it sounds, what is my next move?

There is nothing you can do. You can't beg, plead, say you are going to change, ask, whatever...so that leaves nothing left. What is best for you is to become the best you can. Nothing else will work. Nothing. Remember the butterfly analogy I've used so much on here? Just in case you've missed it:

Think of your ex (and to some extent, your marriage) as a butterfly. Now, what happens if you squeeze a butterfly in your hand? It kills it, right? Same with your ex...you try to hold on too tightly for fear of losing her (newsflash, already have), then that's just going to push her that much further away. So, what do you do with butterflies? You open your hand so they can fly away...and you must provide a safe hand (place) for that butterfly to land again. If, and only if, she chooses to re-alight in your hand, then she will do under her own choice. If she doesn't, then you need to be prepared for life without her. The key is to fully let her go. Treat yourself - and live - as if she never existed. That's all you can do.