Hi PacLove. Glad to see you are still DBing and making progress. I can't give you advice with a lot of confidence because I'm pretty much in the same situation as you. But I think "consistency" should be your go-to mantra here. If your W is all over the place, you really can't do the same. I don't think it's good for you or your relationship. You have to be the "lighthouse" which stays in one place and offers a path back to safety. It doesn't go out and rescue, nor does it ever turn off its light. That's how I'm handling my sitch anyway and at the very least it gives me piece of mind. Stay strong!


M46 W48
M11 T14
S11 D8
BD: 2016/05/27
In-home separation: 2016/11/23
Nesting: 2017/06/11
W moves out: 2018/01/07
W goes public with OM: 2018/07/12
I ask for a divorce: 2018/12/14