And before any of you tell me again that I'm doing those things for my wife, no, I recognize most of her complaints as things that I do need to improve, with or without her.
On top of reading books, I'm going to see a counselor. My step mom found one in her neighborhood, that would do it undocumented. Going to make myself a reminder to make an appointment.
I'm still thinking strongly about cutting the hair, but not sure I'm quite ready for that leap.
You mentioned getting into theater. My dad suggested that, and he and his father were big into theater at times in their lives. I might be interested in backstage work, or light/sound work. But unfortunately, a--hole is into theater, as is his wife.
So, you are "going to remind yourself" to make an appointment with a counselor and then you might really go. And you "might be interested in theater BUT..." and "Still thinking about..." cutting your hair...
I'm not trying to harp on you. But can you see a pattern ^^here? You seem to think these actions are high risk for you but they are not.
Yes I read your GAL activities. To me it seemed (mostly) a list of things you are not yet actually doing.
The exercising is great. Keep it up.
You seem to be avoiding activities with others...which is probably your biggest challenge and need. Inertia is a companion to you, but you need to fire that companion. Inertia keeps you isolated and stuck.
Have you joined something (club, team, organization, church) this month? Started a class that involves others? Visited a new place? Volunteered somewhere?
I could go on with the GAL list but you have the list.
I think you are waiting to be comfortable changing, but change is rarely comfortable.
At some point you'll have to decide if you are more comfortable being stuck. I don't know which choices you will make.
Watch the youtube videos of Amy Cuddy at her TED Talks. "Fake it till you become it", etc.
She discusses how we can change how we feel inside, with some external behavioral changes. She backs it up with empirical data.
"Outside in", rather than waiting to want to do something or waiting to feel like it, or endlessly waiting for inspiration...So we change the behaviors and THEN we feel changed, and we become better.
I don't have a lot of other suggestions for things to do.
Can you Just Do some?
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