Seattle, not that I'm a monitor on this thread LOL, but I agree w/UD on the concept that the EA/PA will not be tolerated in the future-as in when the waters clear? Realizing that the EA/PA occurred due to a need that we were somehow neglecting hit me pretty hard. After some long-time reflection on this, I could see my fault in this process.
As for your comment: "it strikes me a bit odd as everyone feeling this way at once" I have thought about this as well. I have begun to feel that we are all hitting the "acceptance" point? and have become stronger. We have tried various things and finally grasped the concept of DBing-let go of the rope and take care of you. I believe that this process occurs for each of us at different stages and for me, I wish I had come to it sooner. It has given me more peace. I have learned a lot but the pain we go through can't consume us forever. Yes, we are still in pain but it's more manageable now. For me, I have hit a point that says no more-it's your turn. I hope for the best but can only be accountable for my actions from here on out.
Secondly, (again for me) it could be that we're coming out of the "blue season" (wintery months) and spring/summer always appears to be a more exciting time and I don't want to watch my summer dwindle away coz my H isn't participating. Just my thoughts here....hope you 3 don't mind giving my 2 cents.. Tootles.............
