Newby here . . . (Thread 7)

[JRuss]

My initial reaction -- and it went on far too long -- was to extrapolate from my STBX's willingness to give up half of her kids' remaining childhoods the truth (but it wasn't that) that I must be utterly horrible to be with. How else to explain a mother making that trade off? What I see now, htough, is a woman who simply got to her early 40s and decided her life -- looking back on it -- won't have been exciting enough or meaningful enough if she doesn't blow up what is and create a new identity. And it really helps detach. That sort of thinking is about as unattractive as you could blueprint in another human being as far as I'm concerned.