Sorry to hijack, but I wanted to post to LALost concerning her posting.

LALost,

You should start thinking about living your life as if your spouse will not return and that should be now. If your spouse is in MLC, he/she will be "gone" for 2, 3, 5 or even longer. Start living your life as if you are single, independent and the head of your own household. Keep your expectations of your spouse at zero and know that you can rely on him/her for anything. They revert back to a very young age and act out. They need to grow up.

If you are here seeking advice because of MLC, then it's time to start considering what life may look like if your spouses doesn't return. Once the bomb is dropped, the old marriage is dead and they have a good 18-24 month head start in detaching and living like a single person even if they are still living under the same roof.

Again, sorry for the hijack.

Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to.
The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.