My recollection is probably a little fuzzy. 2011 seems like lifetime ago and honestly I live my life in the present moment much more today then I ever did before.
It probably took me a year from the point I asked that question. For me giving up was a process. One where I made the decision to and then the 12 months that it took for me to convince myself that this was the correct decision and then live it.
The reason I made that decision was I didn't think my EXW was capable of making her way through the MLC tunnel. She lived life in kind of a superficial way. People may ask why did you marry then. All I can say is life looks/is different at 20 versus 45. She was a wonderful person for many years and I can honestly say we had a good marriage. I do not respect some of the decisions she made but it was her life to live, not mine.
The decision in hindsight was a good one. 7+ yrs later she still spews at times and there is no friendship/co-parenting etc. My daughter now 18 said one time that she hates that my life turned out as well as it did. Hey what can I say, I'm a cool guy.
Trust your gut going forward. I know the decision seems monumental at times. But give yourself a break. This journey is not for the feinthearted and we learn things everyday.
and this website was a blessing for me. I could not be more at ease with myself and my life then I am right now.
