like the new thread - will post later. as for this:
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My next question I have is I noticed on all your goals, everyone has listed they will not tolerate an EA or PA. Well what if your WAS doesn't consider it an A because it is post bomb? They feel they have been honest with you so to speak.



hits far to close to home - just because my W came home early December and said she wanted a divorce, she suddenly felt she was separated, and could do whatever she wanted, and jumped into bed with that prick "mini" from work. She ultimatly paid the price for not thinking that through, but it sticks in my craw. I told her recently that I wouldnt have been so upset and disappointed in her if she had just seen a lawyer and filed paperwork prior to that. We're now going on 5ish months since the bomb, still no papers, still living at home, and potentially still sleeping with OM (but recent developments seem to indicate a cooling off there).

Yes, she also has the "well if I tell you 80% I'm not lying" - drives me nuts too. My DB'ing wont allow me currently to ask her every fricking time if OM is at a given function that she goes to, and she doesnt usually tell.

Sorry rambling - seems to be a pattern that once they drop the bomb they are "free" to do whatever they want IN THEIR MIND. The LBS, another story.

Bill. "you are who you chose to be" - Iron Giant Link To CURRENT Sitch