Thanks Gordie. I am glad they helped you. In the past I have delved into such topics and it does help when we understand better. The HB site I hadn't read before.

I am not even sure that my W is in mlc. It could just be depression or just a WAW that hasn't walked. Or all 3! From time to time I read bits and pieces on mlc to understand her plight (and inadvertently mine), but at the moment I am concentrating mostly on my action plan moving forward. Slowly but surely that is becoming clearer and taking form. But if you or others have other resources that helped, I am always interested in good knowledge.

Best wishes

R 25 years
M 14 years
S11 & S13
Working on it alone since Oct 2014
M in trouble a lot earlier (~2 years)
Feb 2016. 1st R chat in a yr.
Next R chat Aug'17
Still together