By the grace of God

[bttrfly]

Hi M,
Aw Sweetie I really wish you guys were in a different place! I'm such a romantic that I hope every single person here gets their spouse back and a stronger relationship post MLC but that's sadly not reality for most of us.

So darling you're ready to move forward. I think there would be something wrong if you weren't terrified. I have to ask these questions because I want you to be ruthless in your answers so you will have no regrets moving forward: are you saying this from a place of despair because you think nothing will ever change with H? Why do you think you do not want him to know about your private life? Is it being protective or something else?

The lack of attraction and empty feeling are why I'm asking these questions.

M darling you've done such a super job of standing. You have been a rock through this entire mess called MLC. I'm so proud of you! You've always inspired me throughout my journey here.

I think if you are ready to date, yes, you should say something to H to give him a head's up. Think how hurtful it would be for him to find out another way and also remember that you will be co-parenting with this man for some years to come, so anything that keeps your relationship cordial gets my vote.

I guess the final question is this: if H was planning to start dating, would you want him to give you a head's up? How would you want him to treat you in this situation if the roles were reversed?

You always epitomize kindness in your dealings with him. Keep doing that doll!

xoxoxoxoxoxo