Betsey-this need of his...I'm surmising here...he doesn't want to call b/c he doesn't want to feel controlled/told what to do/like he is checking in/mothered/possibly not trusted... So, he is afraid of being p-whipped, afraid to lose his "identity/individuality." It's not bad to want space.
Doesn't Mars/Venus describe men as being rubberbands? They need to stretch out a little bit, have a sense of freedom, then bounce back once they get renewed if you will. They like to revert to their caves to think about stuff on their own. Yes, we women like to blab about everything, but I think it is a male ego thing to want to be able to solve prob's on their own.
Obviously, the more we try to close in on their space, the more they are going to want to pull away. Give them all kinds of space (& make yourself less available/more scarce yourself), and then they come back b/c they WANT to come back, not b/c they feel pressure as in, "she'll be upset if i don't do A or B." Which way would you rather have it?
I know, I know-easier said than done, and yes, we have our wants and needs. We want to spend time w/him, we want him to talk to us...But, as we all know, we sometimes have to put our needs aside. WHAT??? Hard for those of us who like to *ahem* express our feelings/wants/needs...
If you can muster up the strength (yes, I know it takes A LOT b/c I can't always do it), can you say, "great, take all the time you need," bob barker style? *I know too that this is diff. b/c children are involved.
