Well I do think you should act differently. And I think you need to work towards being different.
Certainly giving a card is pursuing. Either way you need to make this decision about YOU. Not about him, not about your relationship.
I'm having trouble understanding what you're telling me. It feels very contradictory.
My first priority is myself. My second priority is doing what I can to prevent him from following through on self-destructing and taking my life down with him. And from what I've been reading, the best ways to accomplish my two priorities are: GAL, the 180, detaching, and stopping all signs of pursuing.
So if you're telling me to do what is best for me, but it also looks like pursuing, then it's not best for me.
I'm a kind person, and detaching and distancing are difficult for me to do. That's why I lean toward a surface acknowledgement. However, if that's not what is best to achieve my goals, then I don't want to do it.
Hello cadence,
I'm so sorry for the situation you are in.
It is easy to be conflicted when you have so many emotions and thoughts going through your head! At this point you want to be very strategic, especially with how you handle his birthday.
Knowing what to do and what not to do at this point is crucial. Feel free to give me a call at 303-444-7004 to discuss how we can best help you determine what to do next.
Cristy
Resource Coordinator The Divorce Busting Center 303-444-7004
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