Okay so I'm gonna take a shot at Mer's homework assignment. Things that I will consider about H: 1. Spending time w/kids is some sort of affection. 2. His workaholism is more than a hiding place but a means to contribute to his family. 3. His desire to be private is more than a harbour of secrets but a shelter for my pain. 4. His desire to be "friends" is a good start on connection. 5. Association w/opposite sex is non-threatening (too harsh??)
Things about Me to consider: 1. Need to be more "flexible" w/my routine. 2. Need to be more receptive to desires of my H 3. Need to be more of a team player w/spending QT w/H (do things I don't want to do) 4. Adopt "just do it" policy in future R 5. Continue to listen w/heart and ears to all who I care about. 6. No longer allow anyone to come between my R w/best friend (H)
Things I will not allow in my M: 1. No EA/PA allowed. 2. Lack of communication-say what you want, I can't read minds. 3. Lack of QT w/kids. 4. Lack of QT w/H -physically and emotionally. 5. No longer "ass"ume silence is golden (goes w/#2)
