Thank you accuray. Yes, I am trying to figure out a way to be tactful about letting him know he doesn't get to control this situation. he came home from him counseling appointment last friday and said he's willing to work on things, but all I have seen is him pointing out all the negative aspects of our relationship, in a really passive aggressive way. I fear saying anything to make him mad at this point- just trying to listen and be open. counselor told me at my session that if anything to try and establish a sexual connection with him first- and THAT has even been difficult! so, today I decided Im going to distance myself. I told him I may or may not be home for lunch, let him know what he had available for him to eat and said I would text him if i wasnt going to be available.
