Originally Posted By: Cadet

Whatever you decide to do is not going to make a difference in whether you save your relationship or not, is really my point.


Well, I'm torn. As I said, I'm a giving person and would have gone all out for him were we together.

So part of me wants to act differently than what he expects of me. Part of me wants to be the distancer and showing him that things are different now.

But I guess that would mean concentrating too hard on the relationship.

I think I'd be happy with myself if I gave him a superficial/jokey card and said "Happy Birthday" to him at some point.