It takes two to make it work (pt. 6)

[SBJ]

Thanks skm...the 3 F's...faith, family & friends...they are what has helped my PMA. Oh, and whiskey...I forgot to add that. My faith tells me that thru prayer and petition my needs will be met. My family tells me that even though I feel abandoned by my W...they will always be by my side. And, my friends, the real down to earth friends, will have my back thru thick or thin.

I have done a ton of reading and still am a total novice on the subject, but I know enough to know that MLC, or whatever it is that she is going thru, is devastating to a family unit. As a LBS, my family (parents & siblings & my children) has gotten closer...so that is a good thing.

As the MLC'er, my W's family (her parents and siblings) has somewhat splintered. As far as I can see she has continued a fairly good relationship with our kids. And, as far as I can tell she has continued to be friends with most of our family friends...not any of them had stood up to her to say she was nuts. Well, one said that she would talk about it, but nobody confronted her. She has also created an entire new group of friends that do not know me or what our M was like for the last 20+ years. I hear that is typical MLC.

She continues to push me to get the D decree done...so that she doesn't live in limbo any longer than necessary. I can only assume that is also so that she can date. This drives me nuts.

You are right...one day at a time!!!