I'm going to tell my wife that I accept everything that she is doing but that I can no longer be her husband.
What exactly doe this mean to you? Are you going to file? If not, what does "no longer being her husband" entail?
I will not file because it goes against what I want. She will have to do it. If she won't file then I will not concern myself with it. I am not in a hurry to get into another R anyway.