Count on ups and downs (III)

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I forgot to mention that sometimes they do specifically do stuff to hurt us. But again it is drivenby their desire to feel better. If we react badly it confirms their thought that we are bad/ the source of their unhappiness.It is a self fulfilling prophesy for them. And sometimes they push our buttons so we agree the M is bad and D is best. But ultimately it is just part of the game plan to get where they need to be to be happy. They are wrong in their thinking, but they feel so bad, nothing is more important than feeling better. They believe freedom from M is the path to their happiness.

So even if it is intentional it isn't personal. That is a hard concept to grasp as it is about our M, which is personal. But understanding this could really help you.