Don't give her this much power. I promise you that my H said worse things than probably anyone on here. He told me that my 25 years of dedication almost killed him. He told me that he hated me again and again. He said that we should have dated two weeks and broken up (after 25 years of marriage). He told me he would rather be affectionate with anyone in the world but me. He told me that no one else would have put up with me. He put on FB that some mistakes you never stop paying for (the kids did not love that one). On and on.
Saturday he posted a poem about a husband and father who longs to return home. WTF?
These people are not in their right minds. They do not know what they want. I wish I had not wasted months begging and pleading and telling him what he was giving up. I wish I had done only 180s, gone dark, given him time and space, moved on faster. Only now am I feeling some power from leaving him alone and making him come to me. I pursued him for years and pushed him further and further away. I neglected myself and my kids and spent all my energy on him.
Take your power. Let her experience that life she thinks she has been missing and how wonderful it is. Until she does, it will always be some missed opportunity, some nagging doubt. This is your chance to prove to yourself that you can live without her. Every single day it gets easier.
