Moored

[HaWho]

I read the Conway books and do feel they offer excellent overviews. I personally feel these books somehow did not adequately capture the horrific turmoil inherent in MLC. This is awful to say but they seemed somewhat tame and sedate compared to what I actually was witnessing. They captured it clinically (really well) and I think Conway's stages were very much the launching pad for HB.

HB, like Job said, really chronicled the train wreck I was seeing and in so doing, offered reassurance that this thing was real and could be a true horror show. As Job said she does not post here anymore but if you google her you'll find lots of what I re-read.

There are remnants of her work here, but she has expanded on them elsewhere. Here are some of her excerpts from her days here:

http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=1774752&page=1

And this too, but with additional insightful posts attached:

http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2484776&page=1

Here's another link that always reassures me that I am not nuts:
http://www.divorcebusting.com/blog/surviving-your-husbands-midlife-crisis/

This one details withdrawal to acceptance (I don't read this one often as it doesn't pertain to me but it's interesting):

http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubb...403#Post2074403

Additional pearls (this one on reconnecting):

http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2191432


Thanks KYH, Job, Roist and Gordie. I appreciate your posts. I'll write more in reply next time but I did want to post up some of my go-to references.

P.S. In some of these older posts, you may recognize the wise "voice" of the poster, "Snodderly." It's Job!