First of all your best bet is to get a divorce busting telephone coach on this site, they're well trained and you can go into much more detail over the phone. If you can't do that for whatever reason, then the more sharing you can do the better.
A few thoughts for you:
First, you're part of this equation too, so don't let him call all the shots. What do you want? Do you want to live together, sleep together, do things as a couple and live in fear that it won't be good enough and he'll just suddenly leave? How is that going to feel longer term? Are you up for it? I'm sure it feels like the safest route, but is it?
What do people value more, that which is easily given, or what they have to work for?
A lot of the psychology goes back to high school. Are people attracted to people who fawn all over them and do whatever they want, or are they attracted to self confident people they have to work for?
If you strip everything else away, be true to yourself. What do you want? How do you want to conduct your life?
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Married 18, Together 20, Now Divorced M: 48, W: 50, D: 18, S: 16, D: 12 Bomb Dropped (EA, D): 7/13/11 Start Reconcile: 8/15/11 Bomb Dropped (EA, D): 5/1/2014 (Divorced) In a New Relationship: 3/2015
