I returned home from an evening class and he's not here. The kids have gone back to their mother's house for the next week, and he's apparently back to making himself scarce until after he thinks I'll already be asleep.
I'm trying to not let it get to me and enjoy the silence, but it's hard. He thinks of me so negatively that he can't stand being in the same house as me, even though I'm not chasing him.
I snooped a week and a half ago in the receipts in his wallet. As I suspected, he goes out for a snack and a few beers. I don't doubt he's hoping to meet someone and/or is hoping I'll worry about that.
As I said in my post, I've been doing a 180 for about a week and a half. I am not really speaking to him unless spoken to, and I'm trying my darnedest to be upbeat. The past few days have been more difficult. I am cold, which is probably me protecting myself. I do speak happily to the kids and to the animals.
Does anyone have any tips on how to maintain a pleasant affect with him? Does it even matter given that I spent a month and half trying to coax him out of his shell and telling him I loved him every night?
He has said he wants to talk about finances but never brings it up. He's also wanted to sell the house but doesn't bring up anything about pursuing that.