I feel terrible for your situation but see light in the darkness. Some quick thoughts:
1. I think you guys have different love languages and aren't emotionally connecting. You want quantity time and your H works all the time. You want physical affection and your H can't give it to you now, so you feel even more disconnected.
2. Your H may be thinking he is slaving for you and you don't appreciate his work. Further, you quit your FT job so now he is under even more pressure to provide for the family.
3. Despite his disrespectful actions, you don't think he is in an EA or PA. That is a much better position to be in. And he wants you to stay in the same house and bed. It sounds like you even recently ML.
4. It sounds like it is stressful when you guys are together. You are stressed. You nag. You initiate physical contact and he rejects you. Have you read the books? What you are doing now isn't working, so you need to try new things. Figure out what creates connection and then keep doing that.
5. Is there a reason why you don't have kids? If he wants them and you don't, it can be a contributing reason why he is physically rejecting you.
Last edited by Cadet; 03/21/1712:28 PM.
Gordie 40s W 40s M20+ kids 2016 BD W fantasy affair w OM1 I do everything wrong 2017 I start to DB W says TLTL files for D PA w OM2 2018 I do LRT W drops filing and OM2 situation slowly improving
