Thank you Acc, this is actually something I have been considering. however, H has said he still wants to live together, sleep together, do things as a couple and work on things slowly, despite his fear that it's not going to work out. should I still try and "pull away" and let him be? I feel like if I do this, he will choose to divorce because now I'm not interested and its an easy out for him if i no longer act like I want to save what we have. I fear it will do exactly the opposite of what It would be trying to accomplish. I have asked him if he wanted me to back off and he said not necessarily, but he did say that he's not in any kind of place to be affectionate towards me because his feelings are still raw and confusing for him, and that ill have to accept that. to be honest, his behavior the last two days has reminded me of someone who is trying to revert back to their teenage/young 20's behavior; not the responsible, married man behavior. Its all so confusing for me, not to mention heart wrenching to watch and be the recipient of such behavior. this is what leads me to believe he is going through some mid life crap. hes only 30!
