Sunmoon, I'm very sorry to hear the place you're in. Unfortunately things will get more difficult before they get easier. You're used to looking at life as being part of a team with your husband but the next stretch you're going to have to do on your own.

The shortest way back together is to immediately head in the opposite direction. You need to give him the space he wants, you need to be apparently completely fine with it, and you need to find a way for you to appear perfectly happy, content, and most of all fun.

That's a tall order right? That's the shortest way back.

It's like trying to quit smoking where every time you cheat, it just prolongs the whole process. You have to go cold turkey if you want to do it the fastest, although that is also the most painful.

Focus on you, be the better choice.

Acc

Married 18, Together 20, Now Divorced
M: 48, W: 50, D: 18, S: 16, D: 12
Bomb Dropped (EA, D): 7/13/11
Start Reconcile: 8/15/11
Bomb Dropped (EA, D): 5/1/2014 (Divorced)
In a New Relationship: 3/2015