In terms of an update, we're still living together and will until she can move into the house she's under contract on that closes in mid-May. It isn't ideal, but I can manage another two months, and I can't think of a good reason to make my kids' mom move out, then move again, etc. We'll still be married until the first week or so of June, when the 90-day state-required "cooling off" period (ha -- any colder in here, and I'll be frozen) ends. My ring is off and has been since the day I had to sign the Parenting Plan and have it notarized. I realized I was done and didn't consider myself "married" to anyone who would make me give up half of my children's remaining childhood and, importantly (to me) think nothing of giving that up herself. To in fact be motivated to parent less.
Our local paper publishes news of all divorce filings, so it went officially public a couple of Saturdays ago. Very few of our friends read the physical newspaper anymore, but I did get a few "Holy $hit we had no idea" texts. It's not terrible being able to speak about it as a thing that's is definitely happening.
When I get sad these days, it's rarely about her. It's much more kid-focused, as in realizing that the clock is ticking down to the day when they have to start shuttling. Any advice on how to handle that? I don't want them to see me sad, and I really don't want sadness to get in the way of the time I get to see them.
Me: 46 W: 44 Married: 17 Together 21 D13; S10 BD: 03.03.15 (Not attracted to you) Almost 2 years trying, alone, to save marriage Status now: Divorced (effective 06.13.17)
