why didn't you back off the friendship when you realized that it caused your marriage harm? Why fall on your sword for this when you can set such an example?
Do you really see zero double standards here?
This is not being a doormat. You don't have to "Break up" with your bff. Just withdraw for now. Are you clear about what you are standing for and now defending?
I'm sure this will not be easy but it sure isn't complicated. Did you read Kaizen's post to you carefully?
I didnt know that it was causing harm until some serious self reflection after my WW moved out. Then I worked with my counselor on it. I don't see the double standard. I never put him before her, I never slept or had a romantic relationship with him, I never left her for him...these are 2 separate worlds. Thanks for your opinion though, I really do appreciate it.
