So, according to you two I should give up this friendship all while my WW is continuing to talk to and see the OM.
No. Why would you do that?
As I said in my post, I would have stopped the conversation as soon as she said that she was unwilling to cease contact with OM. Regardless of the state of their relationship now, if she could not go NC, then there wasnt anything else to discuss. So no, I dont see why you would go NC with your friend if she is still talking to OM.
Originally Posted By: Laowai
I don't think it is fair to give up a 27 year friendship that I have meticulously groomed now to be conducive to ANY relationship that I may have, just because my WW is having a tantrum because I am asking her to give up an 8 month AFFAIR RELATIONSHIP. It's not about scorecard.
So, you are judging that your relationship with your friend is more important than your relationship with her. Why are you the only judge of what is 'fair'? Why is her giving up her relationship with OM 'fair' but you ending the relationship with your friend is 'unfair'?
From your own words, you said both relationships did harm to your marriage. Why do you think that only one should have to end?
