Sounds to me like she is just making excuses or whatever. She has no intention of leaving the OM. Just keep that in mind.
I tend to agree with this to an extent. She communicated to me that me telling her that ZERO contact with OM is necessary for me to move forward with her is unreasonable and setting her up for failure. Therefore when she fails I can say I gave her a chance and she blew it, absolving me of all guilt....This is obviously not why I am doing this. However, I believe this deal with pushing for zero contact with my best friend is an attempt by her to turn that very same "game" around on me.
