There are moments in this life when you are so confident in the rightness of your actions, that not even for a second do you consider the option that you might be wrong.
So, the first official single weekend has passed in over 10 years. Kind of anti-climatic. Exchange Saturday was OK, except for her attitude. And me? I felt just fine.
Spent the weekend doing busy stuff: Changed fan belt in truck which led to spark plugs to... Yard work and then gym. Was so tired I barely logged on to do some shootin...
Picked the kids up Sunday and the ex proceeded to show me 5 new (well, relatively new) tattoos with one down low strategically placed above, well, you get the drift. Good grief.
So, I feel like I'm flying blind. I'm scared for the kids. They didn't deserve any of this. At all.
There are moments in this life when you are so confident in the rightness of your actions, that not even for a second do you consider the option that you might be wrong.
Jeep...I know how you feel.. when meet for drop off/exchange and I look at the f'n bags and think what the F.... this is the life you want for our kids .. your so GD lazy that you wouldn't lift a finger to work on marriage or at the very least your problems (and mine ) which led to it..? Your right they didn't ask for any of it and I feel guilty about being a part of short changing them on what I would consider a whole and complete life... now it will be fractured and damaged ... riddled with questions and fears I never wanted them to be exposed to... but wtf.... at least "she's" happy..... still dealing with a tinge of anger if you couldn't tell..
I just do the best I can while they are in MY care and try to forget about the other half and those things I cannot control.
New tats huh.. a little mlc going on ?
Me:47 XW 43 D15 D10 Together 17 married 15 Bd : Mother's Day 2015 Sep :July 2015 Divorce final October 2016
still dealing with a tinge of anger if you couldn't tell
Right there with you...
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I just do the best I can while they are in MY care and try to forget about the other half and those things I cannot control
Yeah, I get that. I really do. Its that she and her sister have already begun some form of parental alienation. Not sure what they are saying/doing, because I don't ask the kids. Maybe I should, but then that could push them away and make them feel torn. Ugh.
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New tats huh.. a little mlc going on ?
Naw, its just her. She's always had tats. For much longer than I've known her. The divorce is "liberating" to her... I don't put much stock into the MLC hooey...these are adults who fully are aware of their actions.
There are moments in this life when you are so confident in the rightness of your actions, that not even for a second do you consider the option that you might be wrong.
Sounds like a pretty good weekend to me! Other than the exchanges, but you will be fine with those because you are tough. Happy Monday, Jeep!
Me 52, H53 Bomb drop 9/29/2014 Divorce from XH final 12/17/2014 Marriage #2 12/31/2019 5 adult (step)daughters (3 from XH's first marriage, 2 from current H's previous relationships) 6 grandkids
Sounds like a pretty good weekend to me! Other than the exchanges, but you will be fine with those because you are tough. Happy Monday, Jeep!
Thank you, my friend!
Happy Monday and spring break to you, too!
There are moments in this life when you are so confident in the rightness of your actions, that not even for a second do you consider the option that you might be wrong.
I can understand why you'd be scared for the kids. I hope you can find a way to ensure their safety when you're not around.
Thank you, my friend. It's more than their safety. Her family is batshite crazy...no other way to say it - especially her sister. And her sister has made it clear on more than one occasion that she wants me out of the children's lives.
There are moments in this life when you are so confident in the rightness of your actions, that not even for a second do you consider the option that you might be wrong.
Why is her sister intent on making life difficult for you?
Her sister controls her and what she does. Her sister brings true definition to narcissist. True. Remember my mole in their camp? Well, the sister has had a hand in every single relationship of the ex. Not long after we were married and right after the miscarriage blow up, the ex told me that the sister was "jealous" of her relationships...and the mole confirmed that and told me that the sister has tried to break up every single relationship. In fact, years ago that same mole told me the sister (told her in confidence) wanted me out of the ex's life...
Their family is f***ing crazy. Period.
There are moments in this life when you are so confident in the rightness of your actions, that not even for a second do you consider the option that you might be wrong.
