@Kaizen and 25year: I find it interesting that you both share this viewpoint. Essentially what happened with that friendship is that when my WW and best friend would get into a disagreement I would sit back and let them hash it out. I quite literally NEVER took sides. I just let them handle it. While I still think this was the correct thing to do as they were both ADULTS and should be able to handle disputes on their own, I should have shown my wife support in those moments or at least immediately after. Instead I just kind of let it go. This happened numerous times throughout our relationship and marriage. Just to give you a little background on HOW this was a problem in the marriage. So, according to you two I should give up this friendship all while my WW is continuing to talk to and see the OM. All in an attempt to show her that I am willing to do what is necessary.....in the hopes that she will give up OM....???? This seems a bit counterintuitive to me. I don't think it is fair to give up a 27 year friendship that I have meticulously groomed now to be conducive to ANY relationship that I may have, just because my WW is having a tantrum because I am asking her to give up an 8 month AFFAIR RELATIONSHIP. It's not about scorecard....these 2 aren't in the same realm......
