She truly feels like me telling her that ZERO CONTACT with her AP would be necessary for me is completely unreasonable.
If it were me, I would end the conversation here. I would say that if this is a request that you cant meet, then we dont have anything else to talk about.
Originally Posted By: Laowai
She has went as far as to counter and say that SHE would NEED me to have ZERO CONTACT with my best friend. I will admit that my best friend was the cause of a significant amount of grief in our relationship and I didn't really see it at that time. But through counseling I have drastically changed my relationship with him to be much more healthy, as well as healthy to not interfere with the next romantic relationship I have. Regardless of all of this, it feels more like a "you ask me for something I feel is unreasonable, I'll do the same from you" from her. I don't feel like I should give up my friendship with him just because of her "tit for tat" attitude. I am so baffled all of this. She keeps telling me that she has completely changed her relationship with OM...and that its not good enough for me. I'm not really sure how to respond to this.
Read this and then reread the first thing I quoted. I get it....you didnt sleep with this person. That said, in my opinion, if a spouse says 'get rid of someone', then you do it. I definitely see her side, and I feel that your justification and disbelief at her request is IDENTICAL to her justification for refusing your request. Something to at least consider, I think.
