I would stay out of the negotiations about what she wants from you in order to end contact with OM. No remorse, just demands. Don't believe it for a minute. Just keep improving yourself and what you are responsible for (BF issue included) and let her find her way back on her own. She knows what is needed to get there. Don't let her short circuit the process or it won't be lasting.
Me:49 W:45 M:19 T:22 EA confirmed and ended 8/2014 S:19,17 D:9,5